Social media is full of pictures of perfect couples. Images of romantic couples, engaged people, weddings, and images of couples kissing, holding hands and hugging are all common.
Don’t believe these images of perfect love. They are not the real relationship. These images only show a snapshot. They go through good and bad days, ups anddowns behind the scenes.
This article will help you build a strong relationship. Check out the best ways to improve your relationship. You can create a relationship that is happy and healthy by following these steps.
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Do not enter into a relationship before
Promise yourself that you won’t change to get someone interested in you. You can promise yourself not to be responsible for the happiness of your partner. It can be frightening to enter a relationship, but if you are confident in yourself and take good care of yourself then you’ll be fine.
Before you enter into a relationship, I want to make sure that you’re whole and enough.
01. First, love yourself
You put a lot of pressure on your partner to love you if you don’t first take care of yourself. Learn about yourself, know what you desire, develop self-confidence and place yourself first.
Do you feel satisfied with the current state of affairs? Are you passionate and fulfilled? You are in the right place if you answer yes. When you put your focus on loving yourself, growing as a person, and having a positive attitude, you attract others who feel the same way. This is the law of attraction. Like attracts like
02. Heal the Past
You can start by resolving issues and leaving peacefully. Before entering into a new relationship, let go of your relationship with the other person and the bond.
Let go of your dreams and the effort you put into the last relationship. Reflect on failed relationships. How did the relationship end and what did you enjoy and dislike about it? What did you learn from them?
Allow yourself to grieve your broken relationship, and to give yourself space and time alone to breath. It doesn’t matter if it takes a week or even a year. The time doesn’t really matter, as long as the thing that holds you back has been fully released. Use what you have left to create a healthy new relationship.
How can you tell if a relationship is healthy?
What makes a healthy relationship successful? In my previous relationship article, I discussed toxic relationship. There is no one size fits all when it comes to relationships.
Healthy relationships share some common traits, regardless of how long you have been together. The list is endless: love, honesty, dedication, and trust. Love is not only about being affectionate, but it also means that you are present with each other and gain a better understanding.
We are born with an abundance of possibilities to build a successful and healthy relationship.
1. These 3 A’s are essential to a successful relationship
Allowing others to be themselves requires attention, acceptance and acceptance of the other person. They are hallmarks and building blocks of healthy relationships. We’ll dig deeper into each.
Attentiveness When you pay full attention to your lover, it means that you are listening to his or her thoughts and feelings. It may be necessary to stop what you are doing in order to give your full attention. While driving home at night, I like to hear my boyfriend tell his story. His students are always interesting to him, so I try not to use my mobile and pay full attention.
Acknowledgement Mutual acceptance is a key component of healthy relationships. When your partner is in love with you, there’s no need to wear a disguise. Acknowledging each other’s differences and flaws is part of acceptance. You must accept each other, even when you do not understand their differences. You must accept that you partner may not be perfect and love them anyway.
Let your partner be who they are Controlling someone is not fun. If you try to control and manipulate the other person by trying to constantly change them, then this is a form of manipulation. You could also be interfering with their personal life. It can cause long-term damage to the relationship. Accept your partner for who they are and don’t try to change it. Let them find their own way.
2. Understanding the stages of a romantic relationship
Every relationship has phases and cycles. Each relationship begins with romance and a mutual inability to let go. They progress through conflicts, then into commitment. It is an endless cycle that can be repeated.
We are surrounded by hugs, kisses and charms during the romantic stage. Know that romance will never last. Many relationships end because the romantic aspect fades.
It is more than just romance and affection. When excitement wears off, affection turns into conflict. The darker side of your partner is revealed. You begin to notice things that you have never noticed before.
This phase is normal. Your partner will start to feel comfortable around you, and she may even begin to reveal her true character. It’s crucial that you remain intact during this stage so you can move on to the commitment phase.
Stay with your partner, no matter the challenges and conflicts that may arise. You can move on to the next stage by letting go of an old one.
3. Stop feeding doubt and fears
As we move past the romantic phase in a relationship doubts and fears begin to appear. Your partner starts to question your love and you begin to wonder if this is the person you should be with.
It’s easy to start feeling the fear of someone leaving you, and that you may not be able emotionally to cope. It’s important to let go of your fears and doubts. These are the biggest enemies to a good relationship.
Admitting your fear is the antidote. Do not act on your fears, but acknowledge them. Accept your thoughts and feelings without judging or labeling them. Your thoughts have meaning when you give them meaning.
You can have a lot of different thoughts. Imagine them like clothes that you choose to wear. Let your emotions emerge. You can acknowledge them, but you shouldn’t react to them. Let them be. You can write them in journals.
Ever felt afraid of losing someone you love? Take a minute to think about the love, comfort and security you receive from that person. You are becoming complacent in your relationship. You can find time and space for yourself by being away from your partner.
4. Harmony in your relationships
We expect that our partners will act the way we would like them to, but it is impossible to do so because people are not all alike. We should strive to achieve harmony rather than putting each other under pressure.
Harmony can be achieved in relationships when both parties have mutual respect and learn to adapt their ways. There are differences between us in our communication styles and opinions.
Do not punish your partner if they are unresponsive, or if they want to be alone. Respect and encourage their boundaries.
5. If you feel negative emotions, express them lovingly.
It’s possible that you know of couples who fight almost daily or who seem to have a quiet facade but are hiding a great deal behind it. These two examples can be toxic to a relationship and cause it to fail.
Communication is the main reason for this. You need to be able to communicate lovingly, and with effectiveness, in order for you two relationships stay healthy, particularly when things go wrong. Choose positive words. Avoid saying things that you do not really intend just to get a reaction. You should be mindful of what you are saying.
What is the best way to deal with anger and frustration? Vent your anger in a healthy way when you feel negative emotions. Everyone has the right to be angry, but it’s important that you don’t hurt others.
Dispel your anger by removing yourself from the problem. Take a stroll, play your favorite song, or be alone. You can talk about your feelings when you’re calm.